20 Tips

Tip 4: Encourage Accountability.

Accountability matters. CEO's answer to boards. Elders oversee pastoral performance. Accrediting bodies hold schools to high standards. Governments guard against excessive power of their branches by maintaining checks-and-balance systems.
Accountability matters in community as well. We're more likely to experience permanent change when we have an accountability partner who will support us, ask us whether we're keeping up with our commitments, and check on our progress. So, early on, encourage people toward accountability and be accountable.

20 Tips/Tip 3

Tip 3: Operate in Joy.
The disposition of the leader powerfully drives the disposition of the whole group. When you adopt a joyful and celebratory disposition throughout the study, others will follow. When you smile, when you're upbeat, when you're genuinely excited to be leading, when you celebrate successes, it will infect the group. And that will significantly improve the experience for everyone involved.

As you know, though, joy doesn't just happen. It's not something you can engineer on demand, nor is it something you can fake for very long. Rather, real joy starts with seeing clearly the opportunity with which God has blessed you. You have been commissioned to help Him make people's lives better through leading this study. Your work with this group is, in fact, a sacred ministry. This sort of perspective leads to gratitude for the opportunity, and out of gratitude flows joy, both in your preparation and in your leadership of the discussion.

20 Tips/Tip 2

Tip 2: Operate in God's Strength.
Tip 1 said that successful Bible Study leadership happens when you make the study about God. Here's the flip side: successful leadership happens when you lead the study through God. The best leader is one who's first a follower. Ask God to empower you to lead beyond your abilities, and return to this prayer often. Additionally, make prayer the bedrock of your group time together as well, at the very least opening and closing each session by collectively talking to God.

Small Group Bible Study Tips

I found these small group leadership tips and wanted to share them.
They come from pages 74-82 of the Freedom From Busyness Leader's Guide by Michael Zigarelli.

Tip 1: It's Not About You.
Leading a small group study is not about you. It's about God. The more you can remain in the mindset of magnifying God and minimizing yourself, the more others will learn from the study. Take a cue from John the Baptist: "He must become greater; I must become less" (John 3:30)

For some small group leaders, this humble posture is quite natural. For others, the ego has a funny way of creeping into everything they do. If you find yourself saying and doing things out of concern for what others will think of you as the leader, that's a red flag.
Instead, try not to worry about your reputation and people pleasing. Your job as a small group leader is simply to co-labor with God to draw people closer to Him.

So, to boil it down to a sentence: To lead a small group with excellence, be the "guide on the side," not the "sage on the stage." This is God's group. Keep Him at center stage.

Bible Study for 1John 4:7-18

1John 4:7-18

Get Started:
1. What is your favorite love song of all time? Romantic movie?

Go Deeper:
2. In 1John 4:7, it says that if you love people you know God. What does this mean for Hindus, Buddhists, Atheists, etc who love people? Can only Christians truly love people?

• Scroll down on the blog to find some thoughts on this question.

3. Verses 9 and 10 explain how God showed His love. Why are these verses critical in understanding everything else John is saying about love?

• This represents John’s model. It’s the thing that he points to as he continues his discussion about how we should love.

4. In John 3:16 and 1John 4:11, we see the phrase, “so loved.” What is it about love that John is communicating in these two passages by using that phrase? Do you think he is referring to quantity or quality?

• Scroll down on the blog for thoughts on this question.

5. In 1John 4:10, John uses the phrase, “atoning sacrifice for our sins” for the second time in his letter. (the first time in 2:2) What does it mean for a sacrifice to be atoning and why John is mentioning it.

• Scroll down to the "Scapegoat" post.
  

6. Read 1John 4:13. In this verse, it says that we have been given of His Spirit. Why is it important to know that God has given you of His Spirit? What Bible passages describe the importance of the Spirit in connection with what John is saying about how we know we live in Him and He in us?

• We have access to God by His Spirit. Ephesians 2:18 For through him we both have access to the Father by one Spirit.
• The Spirit is God’s seal of ownership and His guarantee of what is to come. 2Corinthians 1:21 Now it is God who makes both us and you stand firm in Christ. He anointed us, 22 set his seal of ownership on us, and put his Spirit in our hearts as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come.
• This deposit is given when you believe. Ephesians 1:13 And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, 14 who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God’s possession—to the praise of his glory.
• You can know and show evidence of the Spirit in your life. Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

7. In verse 17, John refers to having confidence on the day of judgment. How confident would you be if you knew the day of judgment was tomorrow? Do you have any evidence for your confidence? Should you have?

• If you take a look back at question 6, you will see that this question and that one have some strong connections.
• Hebrews 4:15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet was without sin. 16 Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
• Ephesians 3:12 In him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence.

8. In 1John 4:18 he says that perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment. In what ways have you seen the perfect love of Christ drive out fear in your life?

Making The Connection:
10. Do you need Christ’s perfect love to drive out a fear that you have? Pray about that in community.

11. How can you help someone overcome a fear by showing him/her Christ’s love? Pray about that in community.

Quote Of The Week:
The remarkable thing about fearing God is that when you fear God you fear nothing else, whereas if you do not fear God you fear everything else.
--Oswald Chambers

God so loved

In John 3:16 and 1John 4:11, we see the phrase, “so loved.” What is it about love that John is communicating in these two passages by using that phrase? Do you think he is referring to quantity or quality?

I think my daughter has much love. In other words, she has a large quantity of love and she's very cute in the way she shows it. Because of her love, she sometimes gives me gifts that come from her toy box. I enjoy getting gifts from her toy box. (sometimes she will wrap them in writing paper) Regardless of the type of gift, I know that her love is true, and that there is a lot of it. She gets an “A” for quantity.

While she has much love, I would have to say that there is a certain quality of her love that has room to grow. It is seen in this: shortly after she gives me the gift from her toy box, she wants it back so she can play with it. When I ask her if the toy is really mine, she says yes. However, she still wants it back and expects me to give it to her. Since she is my daughter, I give her an “A” for quality also. But only because the quality seems appropriate for her age (6 years).

It seems that there is a relationship between quality and quantity in the category of love. Large quantities of love can be expressed in shallow or deep ways. What determines whether it is shallow or deep is the quality.

When John 3:16 tells me that God “so” loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, I see quality. In this case, the word, “so” could better be understood as saying, “thusly,” “like so,” or "in this way."
In other words, God loved the world and showed it like so: He gave His one and only Son. Likewise, 1John 4:11 says, since God “so” loved us. Notice once again, in verses 9 and 10 we are told that God “showed” the quality of His love by doing something in particular. He sent His Son to die for us. Once again, quality seems to be the focus. The word, “so” used here is ootos in Greek. This word is an adverb and describes degree. The Strong’s Concordance translates the word, “in this way.”

I’m not saying that quantity is unimportant. I am just saying that I think the focus in these two passages is not on quantity. It is on love’s manifestation; its cost; its quality.

John seems to be saying; “If God’s love looks like the offering of His one and only Son unto death on a cross for our sakes, what should our love look like?”

Do you have to know God to show true love?

In 1John 4:7, it says that if you love people you know God. What does this mean for Hindus, Buddhists, Atheists, etc. who love people? Can only Christians truly love people?

In one sense, it seems like this question doesn't really apply because this letter appears to be meant for a group of Christians.

But, let’s say it did…..
There are many ways that any person can know God.

You can know God through His creation. Psalm 19:1 The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands. Day after day they pour forth speech; night after night they display knowledge. There is no speech or language where their voice is not heard.

You can know God through morality. Romans 2:14 Indeed, when Gentiles, who do not have the law, do by nature things required by the law, they are a law for themselves, even though they do not have the law, since they show that the requirements of the law are written on their hearts, their consciences also bearing witness, and their thoughts now accusing, now even defending them.

Here’s the problem. Romans 1:21 For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to Him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.

You don’t have to be a Christian to love people. But, you do need the sacrifice of Christ on your behalf to gain the forgiveness of sins. Therefore, the more important question is; how can Christ’s sacrifice apply to me?

Thoughts on Forgiveness

Here are some thoughts that may be helpful as you think about what forgiveness is and isn't.

What Forgiveness is not
Forgiveness isn’t saying, “What you did to me is Okay” What the person did may be dead wrong.
Forgiveness is not forgetting that it ever happened. .
Forgiveness isn’t denying that it hurt.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt anymore. It doesn’t mean that you no longer feel any emotions when you think about it.

Forgiveness is not pretending
“I can’t pretend it didn’t happen.”
God doesn’t call us to pretend, or retreat from reality. Forgiveness isn’t forgetting reality, it’s facing reality. Forgiveness is not closing our eyes to the past. But it is opening our heart to the future..

Forgiveness is not Foolishness
If you steal from me, I can forgive you, but I don’t have to loan you money again. It’s doesn’t mean you have to go back to being best friends. It doesn’t necessarily mean you ever have to spend time with them again. It doesn’t mean things are going to be like they were before.

What forgiveness is
What is forgiveness?
Forgiveness means that when someone sins against you, you put the punishment for that sin into God’s hands. It’s giving up your right to be repaid for the wrong committed against you. You let go of their debt and give it to God. It's like saying, "God, if you want to collect on it, or punish them, that’s your business. But I’m not going to demand punishment. I’m not going to demand they pay me back."
Forgiveness means that you no longer reserve the right to hold your hurt against them in God’s sight. Forgiveness is the opposite of prosecution. Forgiveness is deciding not to prosecute the case in God’s court of law

The Bible uses the analogy of debt.
In the Lord’s prayer, it says, “Forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.” Forgiving someone who sins against you is like forgiving the debt of someone who owes you money. You’re not saying that they didn’t take the money, you’re not saying that you don’t have a right to collect the money, you’re not saying that you don’t have the right ask them to pay you back. You simply choose to not exercise that right. You sign the note over to God. You release your claim to God and let Him decide whether or not He wants to collect.

Hope these thoughts help.

Therefore - Bible Study Tip

Therefore, to more fully understand a statement that begins with the word therefore, you have to take an additional step.








This is a good case-in-point. You're probably wondering what this blog post is all about. Scroll down to find out.

Therefore - Bible Study Tip

Therefore, when the owner of the vineyard comes, what will he do to those tenants?

Good question huh?

Assuming you have never read this passage from Matthew 21, what do you think the answer might be?
Obviously, you’ll never know what answer Jesus is looking for without some additional information. And the information you will want is whatever information explains “therefore.” Since this sentence starts with the word, “therefore” it is apparent that the answer to the question is somehow connected to something that is referred to by the word, “therefore.”

In other words:

The word, “therefore” appears 159 times in the New Testament.
What does therefore mean? Another way of saying therefore, would be by saying “because of this,” “in response to this,” or “consequently.”
That seems to prompt a question, doesn’t it?
“Because of what?” “As a consequence to what?”
Whenever you see the word, “therefore,” keep in mind that it is referring to something previously stated in the passage you are reading. This word connects at least two sections (sometimes more) of Scripture together in a type of cause/effect relationship.
Therefore, to more fully understand a statement that begins with the word therefore, you have to take an additional step. You must have an understanding of what preceded it. Stop where you are, back up and read the passages that come before. This will provide more context and will help you to better understand and apply what the Scripture is teaching.

Bible Study / Luke 12

Get Started:
1. Do you plan on retiring some day? What do you plan to do when you retire?

Go Deeper:
2. In a previous Bible study, we studied the Lord’s Prayer. What difference in attitude do you notice between the prayer for “our daily bread” and the man’s attitude in Luke 12:19?

• I suppose you no longer need to pray for daily bread if you have “plenty of good things laid up for many years.”

3. In Luke 12:15, Jesus uses the phrases “watch out!” and “be on your guard.” Is greed something that attacks you from without or within? How can you be on your guard against the sin of greed?

4. Jesus refers to “all kinds” of greed in this passage. Is there more than one kind of greed?

• Greed is not reserved for money only. A person can be greedy for material possessions, talents, abilities, compliments, looks, power, food, knowledge, etc.

5. The man’s life was demanded from him in verse 20. Who demanded it? Why is the man called a fool by God?

6. Read Luke 16:11-13 and Luke 12:21. Is it possible to do both store up for yourself and be rich toward God?

7. Read Luke 12:20 and Ecclesiastes 2:18-19. What is the common concern that is in view in these two passages? Read Luke 12:21. What is the remedy for the concern?

• There seems to be a question in both passages about who gets the wealth that was stored up and how will that person use it? Let’s not forget that the passing on of this wealth comes rather suddenly and unexpectedly.
• It appears that the remedy is to be “rich toward God.” While we don’t know for sure who ends up with what we have stored up for ourselves and how it will be used, we do know for sure that God is always faithful and that He is no fool!

8. What does it mean to be rich toward God? What practical steps would you suggest to someone who wants to take being rich toward God seriously?

• The worldly view of riches has to do with how much a person can accumulate for himself. What God gives a person is stored up for personal use.
• God’s view of riches has to do with how much a person gives away. What God gives a person is given back to Him for His purposes.

Put it into practice:
1) Are you particularly vulnerable to a certain kind of greed? Pray about this.
2) Do you have the desire to be rich toward God but are unsure where or how to begin? Pray about this.


Quote Of The Week:
I do not believe one can settle how much we ought to give. I am afraid the only safe rule is to give more than we can spare.
In other words, if our expenditure on comforts, luxuries, amusements, etc., is up to the standard common among those with the same income as our own, we are probably giving away too little. If our charities do not at all pinch or hamper us, I should say they are too small. There ought to be things we should like to do and cannot do because our charitable expenditures excludes them.
--C.S. Lewis

Bible Study / Luke 11:1-13

When It Feels Like You Don’t Have A Prayer

Get Started:
1. Do you know of a time when you were the answer to a prayer? Tell your group about it.

Go Deep:
3. Read Luke 11:1-13. In Luke 11:2, Jesus tells His disciples to “say.” Do you think He is giving the disciples an exact prayer to recite? Why or why not?

4. In Luke 11:4, the prayer is to not be led into temptation. Does God lead people into temptation? Read James 1:13.

• James 1:13 says that God doesn’t tempt anyone. But it doesn’t say anything about God leading someone into temptation.
• Jesus was led by the Holy Spirit into the desert to be tempted. The Holy Spirit was not the tempter. It was the devil. See Matthew 3:1.

5. In Luke 11:4, what is the relationship between praying for forgiveness and praying to not be lead into temptation? Are they connected?

• I think you need to pray both things in verse 4 – both forgive me for messing up and help me stay out of temptation. One without the other is incomplete. If you prayed the first part, and really wanted to stop sinning, wouldn’t it make sense to pray the second part? And if you prayed more for staying clear of temptation, is it possible you might have fewer times when you need to come and ask for forgiveness?

6. Verse 4 makes an interesting connection between asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness to others; we can’t be praying and asking God to forgive our sins, if we aren’t willing to forgive those who sin against us. Is there someone you need to forgive?

7. Read Luke 11:5-8. What is the main point of this passage? Why did the friend give as much as was needed? What does this passage teach you about your prayer life?

8. Read Luke 11:9-10. What does everyone who asks receive?

• Keep reading!

9. Read 1Corinthians 14:15. When you pray, do you find yourself thinking carefully through your prayer or simply letting it come out? Which do you prefer when you pray and why?

10. What Bible passages give advice on how to pray. What advice do you find yourself using when you pray?

• Philippians 4:6
• Colossians 4:2
• 1Thessalonians 5:16-18
• 1Timothy 2:1, 2:8
• Jude 1:20
• James 5:13-16
• 1Peter 3:7, 4:7
• Luke 5:16, 6:28, 18:1
• Proverbs 28:9
• Daniel 9:3
• Romans 12:12

11. Read some of Paul’s prayers and describe what you learn about prayer from him. What did he pray about most frequently? Most fervently? Does there seem to be a common theme in his prayers?
(Romans 10:1, 11:33-36, 15:5-6, 15:13, 15:30-33, 16:25-27, 1Corinthians 16:23-34, 2Corinthians 13:7-9, 13:14, Galatians 1:3-5, 6:18, Ephesians 1:15-19, 3:14-21, 1Thessalonians 1:2-3, 3:10-13, 2Thessalonians 1:11-12, 3:16, Philippians 1:3-11, Colossians 1:9-14, Philemon 1:4-6.)


Make It Practical:
1) We probably all think we could pray more. If this is the way you feel, what will you do about it?


Quote Of The Week
When life knocks you to your knees—well, that’s the best position in which to pray, isn’t it?
--Ethel Barrymore